Suffering ends with transformation
While transformation may sound as a big word or that it may imply a big process, it purely stands for the change within that you achieve by sitting in these sessions.
The word may be big, but the change happens gradually in the rhythm suitable to you, as we discuss practical examples and real life situations, revealing what is behind them and empowering you to make a choice (do as before or go for the new).
You are drawn to such a process because you are likely experiencing a form of suffering. I am referring to inner suffering. As human beings, we all do, it just takes a different form and plays out in different contexts.
I will summarise the main types of suffering, for clarity.
The feeling of emptiness: this void inside, in your soul, is hard to bear; it comes with great pain and sometimes shame and guilt. This emptiness makes you develop addictions (to numb the pain), become a workaholic (to fill the void), blame others for your pain ( someone needs to be at fault for your pain) and to hardly tolerate alone time (because then you are confronted with the emptiness, the void).
The feeling of being stuck: you get to a point in your life when you realise that what you do (work), how you spend your time (scrolling, socialising) and with whom you spend your time (relationships) is largely because you were told to do, or dragged in contexts or situations, but essentially, none of this makes you feel good; it is not fulfilling and you don’t know what to do; the lack of clarity and the difficulty of changing makes you feel stuck.
The feeling of not being seen, loved, cared for: you are likely a people pleaser, an over indexer in relationships, an accommodator, the flexible one, the follower, the listener - all this, so you are accepted by the group (incl. family); eventually, you get to feel exhausted, misunderstood, lacking real and meaningful friendships; you don’t like confronting and have difficulty in standing up for yourself.
The overly optimistic: no longer a feeling, this is a persona; life is not exactly perfect and you unconsciously deny to see reality, because it hurts; ‘everything is fine’, while your relationship is unsatisfying, you hate your job, you don’t go for a job, you keep seeing the friend that mistreats you; you have the delusional hope it will change; ‘the Universe will fix it’; this life became so normal, you lost your better standards; everything is fine because you are afraid to admit it can be better.
Together, we unpack this. We assess how it feels, we look at the ‘why’ and we discuss practical steps and clear choices you can make to shift your life. The purpose of this work is to end the suffering.
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